Good Deeds

'We live in deeds, not years; in thoughts, not breaths;In feelings, not in figures on a dial'

These lines from Festus (1839) written by Bailey convey a deep meaning for the people of modern world.. I would like to enlighten this proverb to a smaller extent..

You will often come across people saying, "100 saal jiyega tu".. I always take this blessing humorously.. First of all, I know from the circumstances that it's impossible for a person like me to live those many years of my life.. (Even if I do, it would be a mere coincidence :p)..

After a person's death you will hear people speak about his deeds, whether good or bad, but you will rarely notice anyone highlighting his age in preference to his deeds, except for the media sometimes.. This implies from great industrialist like Jamshedji Tata to social workers like Mother Teresa and from revolutionist like Nelson Mandela to a common human being like us..

At every stage of our life there's a reaction of our life in our surroundings.. Each and every person in our vicinity is influenced by our presence and our activities.. This, in fact, creates an impression or image of us as a person in their thoughts.. And hence in our absence, that image in the minds of people gets recreated to get their part of information about us.. Of course, everyone has an image of every person in his vicinity, depending on the priority of that person in his life.. After all, a human brain is capable to store almost 2.5 petabytes (or a million gigabytes) of memory.. So, unlike our harddisks being formatted, human brain can't do so and hence, the information get stored for lifelong..

So, even if a person dies at an early age, the brain redirects you to the images of that person you have and you realize the presence of that person in your feelings.. We can't predict the future.. Neither are we sure of ours and others' lives.. But we can surely be responsible for creation of our good images in minds of others..

So, continue doing good deeds.. Why should we delay in formation of our better afterlife...!!

9 Principles of Dale Carnegie

Today I thought of posting 9 principles of Dale Carnegie.. These are the principles for enhancing relationships.. Now, for those who wonder who this Dale Carnegie is, let me give his brief introduction..

Dale Breckenridge Carnegie was an American writer and lecturer and the developer of famous courses in
self-improvement, salesmanship, corporate training,

public speaking, and interpersonal skills out of which
Dale Carnegie Training is globally known..
The Dale Carnegie Course in Effective Speaking and Human Relations is a learn-by-doing based program for individuals based on Dale Carnegie's teachings.. It was founded in 1912 and is represented in more than 90 countries.. More than 8 million people have completed Dale Carnegie Training..!!

The course is based on a five-phase continuous improvement cycle:

1. Build greater self-confidence 
2. Strengthen people skills 
3. Enhance communication skills 
4. Develop leadership skills 
5. Improve attitude and reduce stress

 
The 9 principles of Dale Carnegie are:

1. Don’t Criticize, Condemn, Or Complain.Criticizing another person not only damages that person’s reputation, but puts a dent in our own.
2. Give Honest, Sincere Appreciation.Appreciation builds our image faster than any other practice. After all, the success of every job demands cooperation and effort from others. People contribute to our success as much as we contribute to theirs.
3. Arouse In The Other Person An Eager Want.As business professionals, we are constantly selling our ideas. But people consent to help for their own reasons, not ours. If we make it clear how our ideas will benefit them, there is no limit to the cooperation we could receive.
4. Become Genuinely Interested In Other People.Regardless of the physical or financial assets a company may have, it’s the people who make it successful. They are an organization’s key asset, and getting to know them should be as high a priority as learning the technical aspects of your job. The key is to be genuine. Don’t get a reputation for only being interested when you want something. Getting to know others should always be mutually beneficial.
5. Smile.Whether we’re pleasant to be around depends less on the situation than on our behavior. Rapport in business is fueled by seemingly minor considerations, such as a friendly, accessible demeanor and a welcoming smile.
6. Remember That A Person’s Name Is To That Person, The Sweetest And Most Important Sound In Any Language.Using a person’s name is crucial, especially when meeting those we don’t see very often. Respect and acceptance stem from simple acts, such as remembering a person’s name and using it whenever appropriate.
7. Be A Good Listener. Encourage Others To Talk About Themselves.A business runs on information, so what better way to learn what’s going on than following this principle? We must listen with everything we’ve got. How we listen says volumes about how we think. Be focused, engaged, and sincere.
   
8. Talk In Terms Of The Other Person’s Interests.Truth be told, we spend most of our time thinking about ourselves. Why not create a strong business relationship by putting away our own concerns and talking about what others are interested in for a while?
   
9. Make The Other Person Feel Important — And Do It Sincerely.In our dealings with others, building them up shows we appreciate their contribution. The bond that results can help us withstand the pressures of our own day-to-day struggles.

All these principles are worthy to be followed by each and everyone for a healthy communication and relationship in our society...!!

Priceless Difference

Recently I happened to visit Dadar for some work.. While returning I saw a mender near Dadar TT & realized that my college bag needs to be mended slightly.. I stood near him waiting for him to finish his present work and started staring everything around..

Suddenly my eyes gazed at the shop of chai-wala near that mender.. Many rich people stopped at his place, drank the beverage and left.. Few even opted for cigar along with that cutting-chai..

On my turn I gave my bag to the mender and he got busy with his tools, my bag and his efforts.. I started gazing around again.. Soon, a rich man stopped there for having tea with his wife.. At the very moment, a girl came begging upto that person and stood nearby him for a while.. The man, finally made his hand reach his wallet, removed a note of Rs.10 and gave it to her..

At the same time, the mender returned me my bag..
I asked, "Kiti zale kaka?"He replied, "10 rupaye"

For a moment I was stunned.. It was just a matter of 10 rupees in both the cases, but the value of that money could be easily differentiated.. I handed over the money and left the place with my mind creating a massive respect for that mender...!!

Vacation

Mein Kabhi Batlata Nahi, Per Andhere Se Darta Hoon Mein Maa..
Yun To Mein Dikhlata Nahi, Teri Parwah Karta Hoon Mein Maa..

Tujhe Sab Hai Pata.. Hai Na Maa..

Bheed Mein Yun Na Chodo Mujhe, Ghar Laut Ke Bhi Aa Na Pau Maa..

Bhej Na Itna Door Mujhko Tu, Yaad Bhi Tujhko Aa Na Pau Maa.. 

Kya Itna Bura Hoon Mein Maa...???

Jab Bhi Kabhi Papa Mujhe Zor Zor Se Jhula Jhulate Hai Maa.

Meri Nazar Dhoondhe Tujhe Sochun Yahi Tu Aake Thaamegi Maa..

Un Se Mein Yeh Kehta Nahi, Per Mein Seham Jaata Hoon Maa..

Chehre Mein Aane Deta Nahi, Dil Hi Dil Mein Ghabrata Hoon Maa...!!

Tujhe Sab Hai Pata Hai Na Maa...

Tujhe Sab Hai Pata... Meri Maa...!!

This Prasoon Joshi's piece of work and efforts of Shankar-Ehsaan-Loy brought tears in my eyes once again.. The only difference was that this time it were tears of true feelings of mine...!!

Leaving aside personal problems, there's many upcoming things; the final of FIFA 2014 between Argentina and Germany on 13th, commencement of academic year of Electronics Engineering on 14th and so on; marking the end of my leisure days...

I had been to my village in this mini-vacation and spent a fortnight there.. Nothing unusual happened except for a few incidents like strange behaviour of a man who was trying to harass a young girl by offering her food and trying to click her photo on Dadar platform until a railway came n she went away.. Then I even saw a 5 foot long snake standing n trying to climb a tree in my vicinity near our house.. Even the surprising defeat of Brazil by 1-7 against Germany in Semi-Finals was one of those unusual things..

This vacation was just a break before the real heard-work in Engineering begins...

ALL THE BEST to myself...!!